MICHELLE HARWELL MFT

We grew up and saw our mom day in and day out, something we took for granted. As infants, we depended fully on her for our physical needs — milk, changing diapers, love, and comfort. That emotional bonding started with her hugs and kisses and unwavering trust. If trust was not given early on as Erickson, a developmental psychologist says, we seek it in our growing years.
As a toddler, our mom taught us our first words. She seemed to be very patient at it and even found our babbling amusing.
Growing up as a preschooler and that first step into a new environment, which is school, showed how much independence a mom gives her child. There were moms who needlessly worried about leaving their 5-year-old at the new school. Both had to learn to “let go” to enable them to experience what adjustment is. For life is full of adjustments:
new friends, new concepts, new places.
Then, as a preschooler, mom was our mentor, snack fixer, and untiring attendee at PTA meetings. She would worry when we got sick or did not feel like participating in a school activity. She was the cheerleader and the best mentor.

She doted on what clothes fancied us as teenagers, and respected the friends we kept. How can a mom see her young daughter or son walk down the wedding aisle without feeling a sense of sadness? Not easy I suppose. This would seem like a positive type of mom, caring and loving.
But moms can also have their “bad” days and kids know these times. They dread it. They dread it even more when they see their parents arguing in loud voices. They even think it is the end of the world and that their parents don’t love each other.

How can kids learn to respect and honor their mom (their parents)? I would agree with many wise persons that to be respected, one must first be respectful. The first basic lesson for mothers is to learn to listen with undivided attention. This is seldom easy, especially if mom has a hundred and one things in her mind. If you can’t listen at that moment, be honest with your kid and tell him that.
Moms (and dads) should keep reassuring their kids that they love them. Not with gifts, but rather with everyday gestures — a kiss, a pat on the back, a hug, watching TV together, reading a story, laughing together.
Happy Mother’s Day and everyday! I love you mom!

Fortunately, my kids were all the cheerful type. We would “talk” while the child sat in his baby potty They always had some story to tell and I delighted in these little conversations. I recall one of my son’s nanny had such a strong personality, I was afraid my son would not develop self- confidence. She would boss him around and get strict with him when he was getting all scruff ed up from playing outdoors. The little boy seemed happy with her, but I felt she had to go at one point, when he turned 2. I was relieved when she left.
Young children need to learn to be independent and be able to do simple chores as picking up their toys after play and returning these to a proper place, learning to put on their clothes, wash their hands by themselves, and eat by themselves. Don’t you notice that nanny do these things for them? These kids, so dependent on their nanny will not even lift a finger when it is time to change their clothes. So what kind of adults will they be same day? More than likely, the men will want their girl friends and wives to prepare their clothes and maybe even spoon feed them. And the women, they will loathe dirtying their hands to work.

Fortunately, my kids were all the cheerful type. We would “talk” while the child sat in his baby potty They always had some story to tell and I delighted in these little conversations. I recall one of my son’s nanny had such a strong personality, I was afraid my son would not develop self- confidence. She would boss him around and get strict with him when he was getting all scruff ed up from playing outdoors. The little boy seemed happy with her, but I felt she had to go at one point, when he turned 2. I was relieved when she left.
Young children need to learn to be independent and be able to do simple chores as picking up their toys after play and returning these to a proper place, learning to put on their clothes, wash their hands by themselves, and eat by themselves. Don’t you notice that nanny do these things for them? These kids, so dependent on their nanny will not even lift a finger when it is time to change their clothes. So what kind of adults will they be same day? More than likely, the men will want their girl friends and wives to prepare their clothes and maybe even spoon feed them. And the women, they will loathe dirtying their hands to work.

I will have to track down some historian to find out where the word nanny came from. It is uniquely course is the child caregiver, often called the “second mom”, as she watches and cares for the child, sometimes spending more time with the child than the parents. Is this healthy, one would ask, letting the nanny take over as parent — sleeping with the child and many times disciplining the child? Worse, I have nanny congregate in preschools, and if allowed, soon will set up a manicure and hairstyling salon, or a snack counter. In addition, there is the misguided nanny who falls into a trap and gets involved with a driver or maintenance man, while waiting for the child at school.
Many parents are not fully aware of the extent of the influence the nanny has on their child’s growth and development. More so with parents who are very busy with their careers and rely a lot on the nanny to watch over their child. There are also many kinds of nanny . There is the bossy, the cheerful, the neat, the careless, the noisy, the meek, and the nagger (the nag who might use pinching, spanking, scolding to make the child obey). However, if she wants to remain employed, she will pretend to be good.

Studying is only a means, not an end or aim in itself. Its aim or means purpose is to get the knowledge needed to become an effective, happy person. You are really studying how ti live in this world as fruitfully and happily as possible. It includes everything else in between. Now that you recognize your ultimate aim, you can begin to work on how to achieve it.

Therefore, rearrange your view so as to make this the aim of your studying efforts. When you move in that direction, things begin to have another dimension, sacrifices assume another meaning. Now, you are not limited to empty vainglory, but have become a part of a humanity that shares a common goal.

Let’s face it. If your objective is just to get top honors rather than realize what school is for, you may be off-tangent. You may be expending efforts in the wrong direction or for the wrong end. You are in school to earn an education. Being on top of your class and getting honors and praises for it are merely incidental.

Education, in the authentic sense, is not just storing knowledge for vanity, future employment or business. It is much broader and deeper than that. Education is meant to make you a rounded individual who can bring himself to the highest level of his total potential for his own happiness and the good of human society. Someone said that education really means fitting man for living. You are in school for a reason no less dignified and dignifying than this.

Are you in school because you want to be admired as the best in class? Or only to insulate yourself from the pain of failure? To get easy employment later? Or are you in school because you want to learn as much as you can, realizing that knowledge is an excellent possession? If you have other objectives, look inside you and assess these objectives.

Without a fixed destination, you will drift. You will be aimless, and aimlessness cannot produce success. you must work less, and aimlessness cannot produce success. You must work hard for it, paddle with your aim as the only direction and in the process you take chances and risks. But because you are inspired and guided by a destination, risk and sufferings are too week to beat you down. You even improvise methods of attaining your objectives faster, easier an more accurately.

There are people who find having their bod scrub after the busy days can exert their stress and the tiredness that they feel on their body. There are moisturizing body scrub that are being use to soothes your feeling. One way of relaxing your mind and your body is the way of having the body scrub. You might start off caring for your body is start taking warm baths again. Did you know that a warm bath has a hydrating effect on your skin? You can start now by trying all those really wonderful scented bath oils to help sooth away the stress of your day and help your dry skin as well. After your bath be sure to apply a rich body moisturizer to your still damp skin to help bring out its natural glow.
In such simple way it can help a lot to relieve the stress that you feel after the busy days and hours of working and earning money.

Hygiene is always a consideration at any time and for any activity. It is comfortable to review after a refreshing bath and tooth brushing and in your bedclothes. Do your chores fast but carefully before reviewing, so you do not have to bother about what you neglect doing.

If you cannot regularly eat foods that provide all the nutrients your body needs especially for strenuous activities like periodic exams, take vitamin-mineral supplements. You will find many in the drug stores sold over the counter or without needing a prescription. Ask the pharmacist for suggestions and choose among good ones at affordable prices.

Do you need a medical or dental check up for any illness or pain? Do it as soon as you can. Illness or toothache will definitely interfere with reviewing. How much more with effective reviewing? if you already have an existing illness, you should be taking medicines your doctor prescribed.

I grew up a witness to the intelligence of the waitress in motion, the reflective welder, the strategy of the guy on the assembly line. This, then, is something I know: the thought it takes to do physical work. Such work put food on our table, gave shape to stories of affliction and ability, framed how I saw the world. I come from a family of immigrants who, with two exceptions, did not finish high school, and who worked in blue-collar or service jobs all their lives.
I did not do so well in school myself, spent several years in the vocational track, and squeaked my way into a small college on probation—the first in the family to go beyond high school. Measures of intellectual ability and assumptions about it are woven throughout this history. So I’ve been thinking about this business of intelligence for a long time: the way we decide who’s smart and who isn’t, the way the work someone does feeds into that judgment, and the effect such judgment has on our sense of who we are and what we can do.