MICHELLE HARWELL MFT

She doted on what clothes fancied us as teenagers, and respected the friends we kept. How can a mom see her young daughter or son walk down the wedding aisle without feeling a sense of sadness? Not easy I suppose. This would seem like a positive type of mom, caring and loving.
But moms can also have their “bad” days and kids know these times. They dread it. They dread it even more when they see their parents arguing in loud voices. They even think it is the end of the world and that their parents don’t love each other.

How can kids learn to respect and honor their mom (their parents)? I would agree with many wise persons that to be respected, one must first be respectful. The first basic lesson for mothers is to learn to listen with undivided attention. This is seldom easy, especially if mom has a hundred and one things in her mind. If you can’t listen at that moment, be honest with your kid and tell him that.
Moms (and dads) should keep reassuring their kids that they love them. Not with gifts, but rather with everyday gestures — a kiss, a pat on the back, a hug, watching TV together, reading a story, laughing together.
Happy Mother’s Day and everyday! I love you mom!

I will have to track down some historian to find out where the word nanny came from. It is uniquely course is the child caregiver, often called the “second mom”, as she watches and cares for the child, sometimes spending more time with the child than the parents. Is this healthy, one would ask, letting the nanny take over as parent — sleeping with the child and many times disciplining the child? Worse, I have nanny congregate in preschools, and if allowed, soon will set up a manicure and hairstyling salon, or a snack counter. In addition, there is the misguided nanny who falls into a trap and gets involved with a driver or maintenance man, while waiting for the child at school.
Many parents are not fully aware of the extent of the influence the nanny has on their child’s growth and development. More so with parents who are very busy with their careers and rely a lot on the nanny to watch over their child. There are also many kinds of nanny . There is the bossy, the cheerful, the neat, the careless, the noisy, the meek, and the nagger (the nag who might use pinching, spanking, scolding to make the child obey). However, if she wants to remain employed, she will pretend to be good.

Studying is only a means, not an end or aim in itself. Its aim or means purpose is to get the knowledge needed to become an effective, happy person. You are really studying how ti live in this world as fruitfully and happily as possible. It includes everything else in between. Now that you recognize your ultimate aim, you can begin to work on how to achieve it.

Therefore, rearrange your view so as to make this the aim of your studying efforts. When you move in that direction, things begin to have another dimension, sacrifices assume another meaning. Now, you are not limited to empty vainglory, but have become a part of a humanity that shares a common goal.

I grew up a witness to the intelligence of the waitress in motion, the reflective welder, the strategy of the guy on the assembly line. This, then, is something I know: the thought it takes to do physical work. Such work put food on our table, gave shape to stories of affliction and ability, framed how I saw the world. I come from a family of immigrants who, with two exceptions, did not finish high school, and who worked in blue-collar or service jobs all their lives.
I did not do so well in school myself, spent several years in the vocational track, and squeaked my way into a small college on probation—the first in the family to go beyond high school. Measures of intellectual ability and assumptions about it are woven throughout this history. So I’ve been thinking about this business of intelligence for a long time: the way we decide who’s smart and who isn’t, the way the work someone does feeds into that judgment, and the effect such judgment has on our sense of who we are and what we can do.